In honor of Mother’s Day, I would like to share a short list of 35 of the things I want my sons to know as they grow to be young men. I have a 13-year-old son and a 6-year-old son, both as polar opposite as they could be, and I love them with everything I am and everything I will be. I was not raised by my biological mom after I was five years old; my grandparents took my brother and me in to their home to raise us until adulthood after my mom became unable to care for us anymore. Both my mother and grandmother have since passed away. I miss them always, but I can’t help but feel some sadness and disappointment that they were not able to watch my boys grow up. C and J, it is an honor and a privilege to be your mom. I love you.
Love always. xoxoxo
Things My Sons Should Know
- You will always be my babies. Sorry, but it’s not going to change.
- I have loved you even before you became a part of me.
- Your mom knows you better than anyone else in this world.
- An entire bottle of cologne will not help you smell better. (Sorry.) Go with a little over a lot.
- Go to school events. One day you might regret not going.
- Choose kindness. You never know what others are going through.
- Treat others the way you would like to be treated (even if you’re not being treated that way yourself).
- Choose your company wisely.
- Ask them out if you want to get to know them better. Don’t be afraid to let go if it’s not the right person for you.
- If s/he cheats on you, they don’t know you’re worth. Find someone who does.
- Don’t tell your mom you hate her. You’ll regret it.
- Know that I always try my best.
- Some people will never like you. Don’t worry about it.
- Don’t let the world make you bitter. Believe in what is good.
- Don’t believe stereotypes. Get to know people.
- You will make mistakes. No one is perfect all the time.
- Don’t let your mistakes define you, but learn from them.
- Strive to learn something new every day.
- Practice gratitude every day.
- Take no one for granted.
- Your words can build or destroy. Never forget that.
- Choose your words and actions wisely.
- Think before you act.
- You are more wonderful than you will ever know.
- Your mental health is more important than your grades or what school or program you get into.
- Take time to take care of yourself.
- No matter how angry you might get at me, I am and will always be your mom and you will always be my heart. I will never give up on you.
- I will never leave your side. Even if it’s in spirit, I’ll always be cheering for you.
- Aspire to do your best and when you’re not able, try to do better the next time.
- It’s okay to be angry. It’s not okay to be cruel.
- Spend time with family. We’ll be here throughout every broken heart and broken friendship and all the happiest moments of your life, if you let us.
- Be careful who you tell your secrets to. Not everyone should be privy to every aspect of your private life.
- Treat animals kindly. They are our best secret keepers and most faithful supports.
- Never pass up the opportunity to tell someone something you like or love about them.
- No one is strong all the time.
Happy Mother’s Day to all, moms of boys and girls, moms of grown adults, moms of furry or scaly pets, moms who have lost their child before their time, and moms who wait for their time. Blessings to each and every one of you.